Can you remember the things you felt bad or guilty about during lockdown? Minor ways you bent the rules that caused concern. Not necessarily anxiety about getting caught or being issued a fine, but the genuine fear of risking someone's health; of passing on an illness that could kill. I'm not talking about blatant flouting or breaches, but those everyday acts you had to navigate just to get by and keep your own sanity in check. Like going on a socially distanced garden visit and passing through the hallway to get outside, or popping inside to use the loo. Or perching on a park bench trying to catch your breath after a run, when sitting in public was still a no-go. Maybe you decided to show support for Black Lives Matter at a march or attended a vigil for Sarah Everard, despite being told it was too dangerous to do so. Or perhaps you didn't attend and regret not showing your sorrow and support.
In the context of this week, it becomes easy to forget why we toed the line so carefully and with so much emotion. But the reasons were – and still are – good and real. People were dying. Many were grieving. Our key workers were sacrificing their own health so we could have the privilege of remaining safely at home. And, of course, our prime minister, government and chief medical officer continually told us it was what we needed to do to keep everyone safe. I was happy to follow the rules because it was the RIGHT thing to do. And being a decent person, a good citizen, being kind and caring for others, not just me and mine, is what makes me able to sleep at night. And I know I'm not alone in that.
So how do we navigate the discovery that our prime minister and the government that led us – those who should be setting, in Sue Gray's words, "the very highest of standards of behaviour" – did not afford us the same respect? How do we "move on" from the fact that they were not prepared to make the sacrifices we did? That they did not care who they made ill or what laws they broke? That they thought their hard work more worthy of escape and reward than that of the NHS, or keyworkers ensuring our flow of food and sanitation, or those who taught their children at home or cared for the elderly? What do we do with the knowledge that many MPs and civil servants thought a leaving do or a birthday was more important than a funeral or the chance to hold a dying loved one's hand?
When we repeatedly lose trust and respect in our government, it is hard to know how to carry on, especially when there are few consequences to law-breaking actions. When we look overseas and see self-serving politicians defy laws that keep children safe in their schools and ignore overwhelming public desire for change, how do we still believe that democracy can work? In short: what do we do when politics is broken? This week, the brilliant Gaby Hinsliff flags some ways we can take back power, which I for one am thankful for, while we continue to search for answers.
What I do know is that Michelle Obama was right when she said: "When they go low, we go high." Now is not the time to question why we toed the line. Or what we would do in the future if faced with the same challenge and knowledge of our government's sense of entitlement. No, now is the time to stay true to the beliefs and values that allow us to live side-by-side with decency and kindness. Channel the anger and hold the government to account but live with respect. These are the values that can make a difference and will allow us to navigate this most challenging of times together.
Lisa
Editor-in-Chief, Stylist
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